It is easy to feel overwhelmed as a young person living in a big city in 2018. Everybody wants to be the best but there always seem to be so many people who are better at everything. Here’s the good news: you don’t need to be the best in order to be doing what you love. Look at the Olympics. Underdogs win all the time. The next day they might be back to being 30th in the world again. No one is constantly winning at life! Here are some of my motivational mantras. They are as much for you as they are for me, by the way.
Practice makes perfect.
Sure, you might feel like you are wasting you time on something no one cares about, but the most important thing is that YOU care about what you’re doing. You won’t be successful in one day, or even one year. In the meantime, you might as well get better at whatever you’re doing.
Everyone has bad days.
In general, people are nice and understanding. Try not to beat yourself up over bingeing Brooklyn Nine-Nine for the fourth time. You can’t always be in top shape. I also can’t think of a better way to spend a “bad” day.
You won’t feel better if you don’t try.
You’ll only wonder “what if?”.
It will make your life a lot more interesting.
When I get home I can forget about my day job, and spend time on my biggest passion!
You will keep your mind active.
It’s quite strange to leave university and not have to do any of the Things again. I quite liked the feeling of accomplishment after a good study session.
You will learn new things.
Maybe they’re not all things I want to remember, but I also still remember the Ruthless Rulers song from Horrible Histories and that comes in quite handy sometimes, so who knows! William, William, Henry, Stephen, Henry, Richard, John…
It’s all about balance.
I love it that some people only talk about a work-life balance. They’re clearly not Millennials. Why is “work” a whole half? And what does the “life” part entail? I’m more worried about my work-body-mind-soul-friends-money-social media-hobbies-dreams-things I want to own-things I want to experience-places to visit-Netflix series to watch-charities to support-charities to oppose to-did you read that book?-did you hear that news?-which The Good Place character are you?-do you believe SJP or Kim Cattrall?-are you the right kind of feminist?-what have you done for the environment today? balance. It’s quite a challenge, but remembering I have all these other things to bear in mind makes it a lot easier to give myself a break every now and then.
You will get to know yourself.
I believe I am the right kind of feminist. I also know that I am a combination of Janet and Michael and that SJP is the devil. The rest is still work in progress.
You will get used to making mistakes, and you will learn from them.
Also knows as: you will set the bar way too high, get stressed out, cry and eat vegan Ben & Jerry’s, and become slightly more realistic. This will happen more than once.
Writing drunk is totally an option.
I used to go with the whole “write drunk, edit sober” thing, but then I cut out the latter half and have been fine TBH. Sometimes “write sober, edit drunk” also works.
You will feel more relaxed about sharing your creative endeavours.
After a while you will start to notice that people haven’t told you you are actual crap like you were expecting. Maybe you’re actually quite alright? With this increasing confidence also comes a zero fucks attitude and man are those two a great duo.
And last but not least: